Husbands Birthday Week

It was my husbands birthday on 4th July and he took a few days off work

On his actual birthday we stayed a home for the day and in the evening we went for a meal to Dylan’s I had booked it a couple of months prior to his birthday then I decided to read the reviews they weren’t very good ūüė¶ I decided we would go and see for ourselves. I am so glad we did the food was amazing , but not cheap the kind of place you would just go for special occasions probably unless you earn a lot of money ūüėÄ

Here are some pictures from the evening

It‚Äôs been a long time….

And it’s been a very hot summer so far and so much has happened and where do I begin.

We went on holiday the 6th May to Spain and it rained nearly every day it was freezing cold , warmer back in the UK than where we were. We had problems with our hotel I will deal with that in another post.

I have recently found out my daughter mummytodex is having another baby , she is due 21st December think I knew almost as soon as she did ( although not officially) I have this knack of looking at people and knowing when they are pregnant I see something in their face

We have been so busy the last few months so much going on and so many concerts or should I say absolutely amazing concerts

The mist and rain when were in Spain and the weather map showing all the storms over Europe

Disability and Work Related Issues

I developed an illness 18 years ago following a car accident, I was diagnosed some 2 years later with CFS which in my case manifests itself with low blood pressure (standing is a major problem as I go dizzy very very quickly) and a fast heart rate. Of course, the 2 are connected because as the blood pressure drops the heart beats faster to try and get the blood pressure up and so becomes a vicious circle. This condition is also called Autonomic Dysfunction.

I spent 6 years virtually housebound, bedridden and in a wheelchair. I have learnt to live with my condition,¬†by no means cured but learned to manage from day to day. In 2011 I was forced by the government to go back to work, I could n long do the job I was qualified to do (I am a trained nurse with 3 nursing qualifications) but unfortunately¬†there aren’t many sit down jobs for a nurse.

I was lucky that my first job was as a carer but sitting with people with dementia while their partners went out, I only worked a maximum of 12 hours a week but it was good to get back into work even though most days I did feel like death.

In 2013 I saw an advert that a new supermarket was open, why not I thought a job on the checkouts, meeting people every day, talking to people sounded like a good idea. It was for a major PLC and they had a sickness policy for my illness

I might add that the whole time I worked for them, I was dismissed in September 2017 NOT once did they adhere to the policy for my illness.

The policy stipulated I should be placed near a toilet (my manager constantly had a problem with me being placed there)

I should have had extra breaks …… never happened sometimes I had to wait over 4 hours for a break

Any absences to do with my illness should have been void of having a warning, I passed out at home and cut my mouth resulting in stitches took 2 days off work and was given a verbal warning for doing so

I was covered by the Equality¬†Act from¬†Day 1 …….not once was it adhered too

The policy for my illness clearly stated that unsteadiness on feet was a prime symptom,¬†this didn’t stop my boss from asking me if I had Gin in my water bottle ( I might add I have been alcohol intolerant ever since having this illness)

I had a bout of sickness one night in October 2016 was up most of the night vomiting so the next morning I phoned in sick, I knew I was ok to go sick as I hadn’t been off for 10 months so was under the 3% necessary to get a meeting with my manager

When I returned to work the next day my manager called me for a meeting and said that there was a new policy in place now and when people went off sick they would now be dismissing people like me

This was like the beginning of the end for me, one thing with this illness is the body does not respond well to stress, I began to be very stressed, worried I would be ill, my customers noticed the change in me and kept asking what was wrong. My manager belittled me at every opportunity, I was shouted at in front of customers for wearing fingerless hand warmers (low blood pressure makes your hands very cold and your fingertips numb)

When I had my 1:1 she would say that she had heard bad things about me but would never elaborate. Then I was told that a manager wanted me dismissed for being rude to his partner, I actually knew the person in question and just couldn’t understand why they would have said that?

My symptoms continued to get worse I started to dread going into work, my heaty rate was going faster and faster I wasn’t sleeping till finally on 30th December 2016 I was sent home from work ill. I went straight to the doctor and put off work immediately. Then I heard the bitchiness goes off sick and her husband was back half an hour later with a sicknote……erm yes he was back with a sick note because I was ILL

With 2 weeks of me being off, I was called in for a meeting with my boss dismissal was mentioned and I was referred to Fit For Work, not once did they look at the sickness policy for my illness

I went through the Fit for Work process and they said I’d obviously had a major relapse and should stay off until my sicknote expired in March and they would speak to me again. I was called in for monthly meetings which I struggled to get in for (the sickness policy advised home visits should have been done for my illness)

I was getting no better, I was put off sick until May, Fit For Work advised some things to be put in place for me to return, these were NOT carried out by my managers

In April I was forced to return to work, I cut my hours right down I was not paying NI I was not eligible for sick pay, bad things were still being said and done by my manager. I documented all these things all were sent to the union. Some of my colleagues used to record conversations they had with the manager, at times I now wish I had done this

I lasted 6 weeks then I was off sick again, my last working day was June 8th, I found out I had been dismissed by a message from a colleague on social media……I didn’t receive the letter from my company until 10 days later ūüė¶

I was invited to meetings in July and August I wrote to the company to say I wasn’t well enough to attend, not once was I offered a home visit

My advice to anyone in my situation, seek legal advice before it gets to the point of dismissal, don’t allow people to bully you on the workplace, think of the long-term effects on your health

I would never want to return to my job, I won’t even spend money in that PLC anymore or step foot in any store belonging to them. I’m not the only bad story to come out of there but I am one of the only ones who stood up for myself. This I will discuss in another posting

2017 in a nutshell

The beginning of the year or rather the end of last year 30th December saw me sent home from work with a relapse of my long-standing illness/disability. Work were less than understanding the  writing was on the wall back in January or even before that when my manager told me that with the new sickness policy if I was to go off sick they could now get rid of me

So much for the Equality Act 2010, I was forced back to work by management in April even though govt Fit For Work said I needed to stay off, the plan for me to go back to work was that I had a parking space outside my workplace. This did not happen, Day by day on my workdays my relapse was getting worse and worse also frequent calls for me to go upstairs to see my manager for petty tellings off, at one point when I told them I was dizzy she even had the audacity to ask if I had gin in my water bottle. Totally unprofessional and said in front of the PM who neither chastised her, said anything but did laugh at the supposed joke! Great way to treat disabled staff.

In June once again¬†I ended up off sick, this time it resulted in them dismissing me in Septemeber, I found out from an ex-colleague on social media as they didn’t bother to write to me until 4th October although my dismissal date in the letter was 22nd September , no reason was given for the¬†delay in sending the letter out nor was there any mention of any home visits whilst I was sick even though I could not manage to get to my workplace for sickness reviews

I complained to Head Office about the way I was treated, my company have a sickness policy specific to my illness

It states parking must be given near the store, this should have been given since the day¬†I started working for them …………..The store’s response………….they gave me¬†one, yes I was allowed to park in the from¬†one day before I went off sick in June ( was refused parking prior to this)

Was told by one manager that if I went off sick again he would sack me, he stated I will have no problem as I have sacked people with cancer so it won’t bother me sacking someone with an illness I have never heard of

According to the policy I should be placed near the toilets, when I returned to work I was moved away from the toilets, my managers also denied this

The policy states I should have had extra breaks this never happened since Day 1that  I started work there, in fact, some days I had to wait 4.5 hours for  a break in a 7-hour shift

I feel let down that my managers blatantly called me a liar even though I had evidence to back up the amount of walking I was doing, plus witnesses to the things that were said to me

It makes me wonder how people sleep at night……….. and why they feel the need to lie….. of course we all know it’s to cover their own backs

Many of the staff record conversations with certain managers without their¬†knowledge, I wish¬†that I too had followed¬†this trend but I expected management to have the same values as me ……….. a big mistake on my part

The company I worked for strapline this Christmas was Everyone’s welcome …………..My take on this Everyone’ welcome …………..unless you’re disabled

 

 

So I lied

I said I wasn’t booking any more concerts for 2018 THEN it was announced Frankie Valli and The Four Seasons are doing a farewell tour, well I couldn’t say no, could I?

AI became a fan of Frankie Valli from the film Grease when he sang Grease is the Word and just in case you need any reminders here are a couple of YouTube Videos